My mom doesn’t keep kosher and asked me to cook her something treif. She gets very mad when I refuse.
Is there any leniency to cook it for her? Does it matter if it’s milk & meat or not?
(ie. if she asked me to cook meat in a “milky oven”)
Answer:
There is no room for leniency in this, and no difference between milk and meat and other prohibitions. Although you are obilgated to honor your mother, the obligation to the Torah, which applies to yourself and your mother, comes first.
In trying to avoid conflict with your mother, tell her that you cooked the food with much love, but with kosher ingredients — and that the two don’t contradict one another.
I wish you much luck in dealing with this delicate issue.
